The decision of when- and if- to reproduce is central to an individual's basic human rights. People who choose not to have children (especially women!) are often subjected to a myriad of hurtful comments and impertinent questions regarding their choice and physical reproductive capabilities. Sometimes, these questions and comments can be shocking, and it's hard to know just how to respond. Here are some common comments I receive regarding my childfree status and ideas on how to thoughtfully respond!
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Childfree people face so much stigma in our society. We're told we're selfish, unfulfilled, and incapable of making decisions about our own reproduction. We're assumed to hate children, we're told that we're not fulfilling some sacred or intrinsic obligation to procreate, we're belittled and harassed. Childfree lifestyles are completely valid. The decision not to have children isn't an attack on people who do have children, and there are a huge number of reasons both within and out of our control as to why we don't procreate. These are the main things that all childfree people want you to know!