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Pin-Up’s Against Bullying educates, offers advice and support relating to all bullying, body shaming and other negative ideals society has enforced. They are a fabulous support network to those who need it. Each member of Pin-Up’s Against Bullying is inspiring, strong and empowering. With chapters across the US, England, Scotland, Ireland, Wales, Australia and New Zealand, Pin-Up’s Against Bullying is gaining more and more worldwide recognition.
Pin-Up’s Against Bullying firmly believe that together, through positive thoughts, words, actions and behaviours we can make a substantial impact against bullying.
You can find more information on the website www.pinupsagainstbullying.com or via the Facebook page www.facebook.com/PinupsAgainstBullying or on Instagram by searching the hashtag #pinupsagainstbullying
“We are more than your hurtful words. We are more than what you try to label us. We are people. We say no to bullying and abuse in any form”
Spooky Fat Babe (@spookyfatbabe http://www.donutsanddissent.com) – “I spent a lot of my dating life being the secret girlfriend. In private, my boyfriends were loving, attentive, perfect. In public, they pretended I didn’t exist. They were ashamed to be seen in public with my fat body, my weird hair, my drawn-on eyebrows. They were ashamed of my bluntness, my vegetarianism…they were ashamed of me. Some of them even made fun of me with their friends behind my back. And that made me ashamed of me, too. I let them get away with it, I went along with it, just feeling lucky to be in their company. It was pathetic. I won’t be invisible anymore. I won’t let myself be pushed aside, because I know now that my body and I are glorious, and that I’m deserving of real love, not just the secret, shut away kind. If you’re too embarrassed of the way I look to want to be my friend or lover publicly, you don’t deserve even a second of my time. I wish I would’ve learned this sooner.”
Hanna, 29 – “So I decided to use Finnish word, because this way I got to hear it when I was younger. I’ve been bullied for so long and heard so many words that hurt, but I picked this. In my opinion this is the word no one should ever use about a girl/woman, no matter what the language is. So “huora” translates to “whore”. Though English word does not feel that bad for me, that’s why I chose the original. And adjectives like “ugly/pathetic/fat/you choose whore”, I’ve probably hear them many times. How stupid it is to call a 12-year old girl a whore? Just because you don’t like her? She’s different, she’s not wearing latest and most expensive clothes? You don’t think she’s pretty? She’s not cool enough? Someone still thinks those things give them a right to use such insulting and hurtful word. I felt so bad to even see that word written down so I had to take this second pic too.”
Fran, 24 – “For years, for far too many years, I was bullied into believing that I was too fat to be loved, that I was too far outside of beauty ideals to be considered worthy of loving. But now I have come to realise that my worth is not dependent on the love and validation of others. I have learnt to accept myself, and in doing so I have learnt to love myself, no matter what anyone else thinks or says.”
Amanda, 29 – “Here’s my picture. My ex boyfriend was the worst for my self esteem, constantly tearing me down every chance he could. He managed to make me hate who I was and how I looked. I was a shell of the person I used to be. Breaking away from him was my first step to healing. It’s taken over a year, but I can say I’m 100% happy with who I am, and I love the girl I see in the mirror!”
Christian Simone, – 30 “My quote comes from family especially my step father who felt as a dark fattie no one would want to be my friend God forbid a man would want me. I worked hard and gave way more than needed as I always felt like was undeserving of anyone. I gave myself away to men who aren’t even worth to drink my bath water. Now as I have lost 100lbs and have gotten my cycle certification and started a plus fit blog The Plush Cyclist I know I’m strong and a everything life is. I’m Plush but one of the baddest. We all don’t have to have a tiny waist and big butt to be pretty either.”
Christi, 36 (Founder, President and CEO of Dames for Dreams and Chapter Head of Seattle Washington for Pin-up’s Against Bullying)- *Caution-Possible Trigger* – “You’re my problem child!” she exclaimed, “I wish you were dead!” My bully started at home. I have tried to overcome in spite of everything. Often times she wins because now as an adult my bully is in my head. Like venom poisoning my self esteem. If my bully was outside of my head I would punch her lights out for talking to me like that. There are countless things said to me that play like a recording in my brain. These words cut the deepest. I wish you were dead? Who says that? To someone that she knew was struggling with a deep destructive depression. “Why don’t you just go kill yourself.” Deafening. Repetitive. Rings loudly, in mega phone volumes.”
Michelle (@mindsetforlifeltd, http://www.mindsetforlife.co.uk), 22 – “This is how I see it, anything that induces embarrassment or shame or involving belittling is bullying. A lot of bullying is said under the guise of it being a ‘joke’ but saying something cutting, then claiming it’s a joke, doesn’t diminish it’s pain. This was said to me by a guy and my response is this: I am not my race, I am not a label and I am certainly not something to tick off your list. I am a Body Confidence Coach and the creator of the Scarred Not Scared campaign. I am also the founder of the company Mindset For Life which empowers women to not just love their bodies but their life. I became passionate about this after 15 surgeries left me with many scars that cover my body.”
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