10 Fat Babe Commandments

Image of me & Meredith Danhauer by Cayan Ashley Photography

Image of me & Meredith Danhauer by Cayan Ashley Photography

Fat Babe Commandments



+ Thou shall dress comfortably for the weather whether or not anyone else approves 


+ Honor Beth Ditto; keep Her holy


+ Thou shall rock whatever fashion trend thou wants to rock!


+ Thou shalt not hate on women who have a different body type than thou; we're all beautiful in our own ways


+ Coconut oil is a gift from Heaven; respect it as such


+ Stretch marks are proof only that you have a living, changing human body. Never be ashamed of them.


+ Thou shall remember that extra chub has no effect on thine intrinsic value or beauty


+ Thou shall wear whatever makes thou feel confident & powerful; eff the noise saying otherwise


+ Thou shall not say negative things or think negative thoughts about thineself!


+ If thou loses weight, thou shall remember not to bash thine former body, because thou art beautiful, valuable & worthy of respect at any size



How To Rock Body Harnesses


How To Rock Body Harnesses

Body harnesses bring BDSM style to everyday fashion.


Harnesses & cage bras are all over the place right now, but finding them in plus sizes can seem impossible. When I first got into them, I looked and looked- the only ones I could find were custom-made on etsy. They weren't exactly what I wanted & I wasn't even positive they'd fit me.

So, I took matters into my own hands and decided to make them myself! I used elastic, a needle, thread and some imagination. I just thought up patterns and sewed them right onto my body so I knew they'd fit me. If you don't feel like just winging it, the internet is absolutely full of harness-making tutorials! 

The body & thigh harnesses shown in this article were custom made & given to me by my good friend Kayla Barker (@fatcrossfitbabe)! She has a sewing machine & knows how to use it- her harnesses turned out way more solid than my poorly hand-sewn ones did! 

Anyway, down to the grit: once you have your harness, how do you wear it? 


+Under Clothes

You can wear harnesses over your bra & under your clothes for a sexy where-does-that-harness-stop-exactly? sort of look that's sure to pique the curiosity of others. This is probably the easiest way to wear them, and it's a bit more conservative than wearing them outside of your clothing, so it's a good first step.


+Over Clothes, But Keep It Simple!

When wearing a harness over clothing, it's important that the base clothing is simple; nothing patterned or busy, or the harness will just get lost in it and the ensemble will look like a mess. So, keep your base layer fitted & simple!


+Contrasted With Ultra-Feminine Pieces

This is probably my favorite way to wear harnesses: contrasted with super feminine pieces. The dynamic and visual interest created by pairing a super feminine, airy dress or top with a solid, hardcore harness is so irresistible! 

+Bonus: Thigh Harnesses

I love thigh harnesses! These ones made by my friend Kayla are amazing. There are a bunch of tutorials online detailing how to make them. I love to wear them with ultra-short bodycon dresses, but they look great when paired with shorts or even over skinny jeans, as shown!
When rocking a thigh harness, I like to keep the rest of my outfit fitted and simple to make the harness the star of the ensemble. Other than that, pair away! It's hard to go wrong when wearing thigh harnesses if you make them the focus of your outfits. 


No matter what type of harness you choose, you're sure to rock it if you follow these simple tips. Don't be afraid to try daring new trends! Life is too short for boring fashion!




Dare To Rock A Crop Top!


Dare To Rock A Crop Top!


We fat babes are taught to try to "camouflage" our stomachs with ruching, strategic patterns, tummy-tucking jeans, & vertical  lines; we're told that our big tummies are problems that need to be hidden. 

No more! 


My stomach is a part of who I am. Yes, it's fat. Yes, it has stretch marks. Yes, it's pale & doughy & soft. None of those facts are reasons not to love myself. They're absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. I'm fat- so what? 

Crop tops are so in right now, and they've become part of the fat babe battle cry. Babes wear them to shout, "I'm fat & beautiful!" in the war of Fat Babes Vs. Conventional Beauty Ideals (Spoiler alert- we're winning). To wear a crop top as a plus size person means defying everything that advertisers have taught us about conventional beauty. By wearing one, you're taking control of your identity and making a bold, adorable fashion statement. In a crop top, you're telling the world that you love your body and are proud to show it off! 

Here are three interesting ways to wear them:


With A Contrasted Skirt

I have way too many skirts- a whole closet devoted to them- & I love pairing them with crop tops. When I wear crop tops, I do it daringly, and often like to make a visual statement by pairing the crop top with a contrasting bottom. 
For example, I love putting together this hardcore pleather zip-up crop top with an ultra-feminine, sparkly mauve tulle skirt. The contrasting textures create visual interest that screams, "Confidence Queen!" & slays anyone who thinks that fatties can't pull off cropped tops!


+ With Skinny Jeans

Another way I like to wear crop tops is with my ultra-comfy high-waisted skinny jeans. They leave just a slit of tummy showing and can be paired easily with a crop top of any style, color or print. A solid base, you can't go wrong pairing a crop with a great, fitted pair of high-waisted skinny jeans. 


Go In For The Kill With A Mismatched-But-Cohesive Look

A not-for-the-faint-of-heart way to wear crop tops is to go all-out with mismatched patterns. When doing this, I find it essential to keep your accessories color-coordinated and simple! For instance, I paired this striped crop top with leopard-print leggings. I love the contrast! The bold striped black-&-white top contrasts so well against the leopard legging! The simple, black Doc Marten creepers and black purse keep the look on point and cohesive, because black is in both of the pieces. That's the key to mismatched outfits: make sure the mismatched pieces have a color in common, & use it to accessorize the outfit. 


Crop tops are a bold move for fat babes, & rocking them out in public feels empowering as fuck. I'm so glad that plus size retailers like Charlotte Russe, Smart Glamour & Chubby Cartwheels are offering adorable, fashion-forward crop tops in plus sizes so that fat babes everywhere can join in on the #FatBabeBattleCry:


We're fat, we're beautiful and we're unashamed; hear us roar